For the last couple of years my parents (namely, mom) has been bugging my husband and I to go on a trip with them to these old cabins (one state away) that are in disrepair. My dad grew up in that area so it is more or less a nostalgic trip for him, plus his brother lives close by whom I haven't seen in many years. The trouble is we went along and stayed there once with them about 7 years ago and my husband hated it, complained the whole time because he had lightening bugs in his pillow case and there were bugs everywhere. He said he would never go back. This time they have added a small water-play area for kids but there is still nothing to do in the area as far as activity for miles. I myself, don't mind going and I told my husband I would go and take the kids and he could stay home for a few days but he doesn't think its fair for me to go somewhere without him, so he's coming. My mother is naming off exactly what we are all going to do when we get there, such as go cemetery hopping putting flowers on old relatives graves, which is fine for her and Dad but my husband is not going to be interested in that. Well, my mom of course, is offended that he doesn't want to do that for hours (the cemeterys are hours & towns apart) and wants me to make him stay home. My husband wants to rent a boat and go out on the lake for an hour or two which I think would be fun. My mom says Oh everywhere "Jim" goes he has to be entertained, doesn't he now!" To tell you the truth I don't blame my husband. I can't see going to these cabins in the middle of July and sitting for 4 days staring at each other. I love my family but we need to have some fun, not watch my dad and uncle sit around all day and get drunk.

I would go and gladly take your husband with you. Make a deal with your hubby that if he doesn't complain he will be "rewarded" if you know what I mean. Take up for him when your mom says rude stuff like "oh everywhere Jim goes he has to be entertained, doesn't he now." You really need to put an end to comments like that. That is rude of her to cut him down like that and he doesn't deserve that!!! Only agree to go if she knows that you are going to pick and chose for your own family what activities you are going to do. Don't let her control you like that! She has no right to dominate all your time with your kids and husband! In fact, I would ask her to watch the kids so you could go out on a boat ride with him! Sounds fun.

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