For the first time I need to find a "real" baby sitter for my 15 month old. I am a firm believer in parenting with love and logic rather than punishments and rewards, so sitters and I typically don't agree on discipline. What things should I be willing to compromise on and what things should I stick to my guns about?
Don't compromise. Stick to your guns.
I'm a babysitter to 4 kids (6.5, 6, and 4 year old twins) who are adopted or about to be adopted. My momboss is very much like you - non punitive, I think it's called.
Do interviews. Tell the sitter what's expected of her, what she can and cannot do within your walls, what she's to eat, if she's to use your computer or television, etc. Then outline your style of parenting and how you go about things. Tell her that she'll be expected to follow the rules you lay out. If she's going to have difficulty with that, thank her for her time and tell her she's not right for your family.
I say don't compromise because consistency is key. I don't agree with everything the lady I work for does - but I comply with her wishes. It clashes with my own parental style, but I do it when I'm working. When I'm at work, I'm Chelle the Sitter. At home, I'm Mommy. Your sitter will have to be able to do the same.
i really don't think there's any compromising.. its your child after all and you want a babysitter that will follow just what you provide and your logic like you say while you are not around. they are getting paid by you to watch over your little one and they need to follow closely whatever you want to happen. if not, then they are not what you are looking for.. that's my advice.. hope it helps!!!!
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mother to a 4 year old and one on the way
Don't compromise. Stick to your guns.
I'm a babysitter to 4 kids (6.5, 6, and 4 year old twins) who are adopted or about to be adopted. My momboss is very much like you - non punitive, I think it's called.
Do interviews. Tell the sitter what's expected of her, what she can and cannot do within your walls, what she's to eat, if she's to use your computer or television, etc. Then outline your style of parenting and how you go about things. Tell her that she'll be expected to follow the rules you lay out. If she's going to have difficulty with that, thank her for her time and tell her she's not right for your family.
I say don't compromise because consistency is key. I don't agree with everything the lady I work for does - but I comply with her wishes. It clashes with my own parental style, but I do it when I'm working. When I'm at work, I'm Chelle the Sitter. At home, I'm Mommy. Your sitter will have to be able to do the same.
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Professional Babysitter to 4 and Mommy to 1.
first of all your the parent their is no comprimising is your rules or its not the right sitter the best thing i can recomend is family they care about you enough to respect your rules and parenting styles
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