So my 9 year old stays home alone 30 minutes everyday while I transition to home. I wrote a note stating this " DO NOT TOUCH TV until you have cleaned Living rm 1 & 2 areas" Love mom. I taped it to the TV, and this is what happened.
So I get home and theres a note taped to the outside of the door. Hmmm jeesh i hope i'm not getting a notice or something….Read it and this is what it states..
" Dear mom, Thanks but no thanks" Love ———— (my daughters name inserted here).
The living rooms did not get cleaned, and she's watching tv when I walk through the door. I walk over to tv and shut it off. She says hey I was watching that. i say oh, really? Well i'm really tired, and now I have 2 living rooms to clean by my self. She then says that she needs a ride to dance class. I say oh, really? Thats a shame because I won't have energy to take you after cleaning this mess. She storms to her room, and thats the end
So I ask you love and logic experts, what would you have done
*applauds mum*
well done!
i like your style
i too have a 9yo and at that age they are old enough to start taking some responsibility for tasks around the home and that is to be part of family life where we all help each other.
After all being his mum i do the majority of the cooking, cleaning and laundry which HE benefits from so i don't feel bad about asking that he does a few simple tasks in return that are well within his capabilities. I find that although i do need to remind him to do them , he accepts that and does what he is asked without grumbling because he does make the connection between getting what he wants and mummy getting what she asks for in return.
Which is why i totally approve of what you are doing too
if you don't get what you ask for then she doesn't get what she wants either as a direct result - don't weaken mum and she will get the message loud and clear
plus it will benefit her far more later on in life too
congrats!
Purrrrr - fect…..
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dont take her to the dance that will show the little brat.
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although you may not want to ground her you might have to
also you should have made her help you clean it up, if not she will think she can get away with it
sometimes best love is tough love
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well, children are acting more like teenagers increasing every day now. its crazy and annoying but thats what the world is coming to. just stay calm because you`re supposed to be the one setting a good example.
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I think that what you did was fair, although I don't it's right to leave a 9 year old by themself. What if the house catches on fire? Or someone tries to come in and molest or abduct her? She's not old enough to know how to respond or even strong enough to defend herself. I have a nine year old myself.
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I would have probably done the same thing. But if I knew that when my child came home they would go straight for the t.v. (I'm a kid myself) I would have unplugged every single electronic in the house and wouldn't put them back until everything was CLEANED
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You did good. I would also have confinscated any and all items that are of entertainment value to her until you came home to a clean living room 1 and 2.
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Bravo, kudos and the best of luck. teach your children well…
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Set a good example, clean up the mess around the house and while your at it, tell your daughter to help out. Be consistent, all the time. Clean mess, help each other and befriend one another. This is leading by example.. Mama cleans, daughter cleans too!!! Mommy leads, daughter helps out.
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I would have turned off the T.V. not taken her to dance and then MADE her clean the living room, and then her room. Next time, either don't leave her home alone or unplug the TV and VCR and anything else necessary to stop her from watching again. She needs to know that YOU are in charge and she has to respect you and do what you tell her to do. Take charge, YOU are her mom, and you are the 'boss of her.'
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I would have done exactly what you did, I think.
She made her choices & now she's dealing with the consequences of them.
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I agree with Liz I would have did what u did, and I still would have made her help clean. I am the boss
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Have a 15 year old who knows to clean up first..
The exact same thing. She was very rude, and you must let her know that that cannot happen again.
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she dont deserve the dance so she should have cleaned. you have passed. you gave her dicipline
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*applauds mum*
well done!
i like your style
i too have a 9yo and at that age they are old enough to start taking some responsibility for tasks around the home and that is to be part of family life where we all help each other.
After all being his mum i do the majority of the cooking, cleaning and laundry which HE benefits from so i don't feel bad about asking that he does a few simple tasks in return that are well within his capabilities. I find that although i do need to remind him to do them , he accepts that and does what he is asked without grumbling because he does make the connection between getting what he wants and mummy getting what she asks for in return.
Which is why i totally approve of what you are doing too
if you don't get what you ask for then she doesn't get what she wants either as a direct result - don't weaken mum and she will get the message loud and clear
plus it will benefit her far more later on in life too
congrats!
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Well, I tend to go against a lot of answers, Sorry, but this sounds like the first time you`ve tried this-It ain`t gonna happen.You are going to have to sit down & work something out.When, she gets out of school, she probaly needs some time to decompress, so for those 30 min. let her rest, when you come home-you rest, while she cleans a room-30 min.then, you both do it together. What would I have done?Go out to the porch & meditate, I would have been angry, then after I calmed down, I would have take her to dance class & try to explain why I need the help & ask what her solution was.Tell her, we have a choice,doyou want to live in a pigsty,or not?That you really need the help. If she does`nt care.Then, say, well I`ll do the dishes, cooking & laundry, but,since we neighter one, wants to do anything else.If I can`t beat ya, guess I`ll join you.It may be embarrassing when company comes. Do It! She sounds like she needs a reality check. Good luck!!
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I would never allow a nine year old to stay home for ANY amount of time by herself.
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